Over the years, I've been in a few relationships after my engagement of 11 years, to a man I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with. Even though the other men I've started new relationships with were all different individuals with different faces, they all had similar character traits.

They were all liars and had a representative until you got to know them for who they truly are, and they would try to convince me that I was the one that was crazy and insecure. The only thing I wanted to do was argue and fuss. Even though you know you're not crazy, you pretend to act like everything is ok and pull strength from listening to love songs and talking to your girlfriends for hours at a time to convince yourself you're not a deer in headlights, and you deserve better.

As women, you go through so much bullshit in life with men, yet you still continue to be strong and pick yourself up after every lie, every heartbreak, every divorce, every disrespect, and disappointment; you still snap back like a rubber band because God gave women a strength only we can bear. And that strength is what makes us indestructible; see, a man was designed to protect a woman, not to destroy her, but some men are threatened by strong women with opinions and a voice, thus they class you as problematic. This is then the reason they use to validate their cheating and disrespect. Don't let anyone silence you for being you and standing your ground. If you can't be yourself in a relationship, that relationship is not worth your peace of mind and energy. Move On!

Black Women You Are Build Different! 

You Are Queens!