A few months ago, I might have been singing a different tune, and it took some time apart to fully realize that divorce isn't the end-all, and there's life after divorce. 

After 15 years of marriage, it was finally coming to an end. Why? Because my husband was unfaithful, and I had to remind myself that it's not my fault that he cheated. Although cheaters like placing the blame on the other party, you're not to blame. You didn't hold their hand and guide them to an extramarital affair. Even if there were problems in your relationship, and they were as bad as the cheater claims, you didn't cheat, and them blaming you for their own bad behavior is unacceptable.

Never feel as though you were to blame and never accept that you were. For many weeks I questioned myself, "What could I have done differently?", "Why didn't he want me?", "Was our almost 20-year relationship that meaningless that it could be thrown away so easily?". How could someone walk away from that so easily? 

It really all boils down to selfishness, and I went through all the stages of grief until I finally accepted it.

Stop doubting yourself and your worth because you are worthy of love; you are worthy of forgiveness.  YOU ARE WORTHY!

For years I put my family first, but it was never reciprocated, and that should have been a red flag. Conversations that should have been private were being touted on Facebook. Decisions were being made without my input, and I was finding out these things second-hand, usually, after the world had heard about them via social media. I was made out to be the bad guy and talked and laughed about by his friends while he sat back and enjoyed it all. 

There were many extramarital affairs, and even then, the "other woman" was placed before my family and me. They were who he would tell his secrets, his affairs. I meant absolutely nothing, and when you start feeling as though you mean nothing, you usually do, and it's time to let go.

While my marriage might be coming to an end, I had to remind myself that it wasn't the end of life and me living. Getting a divorce doesn't mean that your life has come to an end, but instead, it is the end of what you thought would be your happily ever after. There are many reasons for divorce, with the number one reason being infidelity. Whether you decide to take your spouse back after they've been unfaithful is a decision that only you can make. 

Infidelity in marriage breaks the bond and trust that you had with each other, and trust, once broken, can be almost impossible to repair. However, that doesn't mean that it can't be repaired, but it will take work and commitment. Remember, you both need to want to make your marriage work for it to work. One person can't do it all by themself, and it will be tough.

Divorce is the end-all, and I would never encourage anyone to get a divorce. You obviously loved each other when you got married. Think back to the fun you had when you first got together. Try recreating those memories. But if you decide that there's no hope and that divorce is the only way for you to be happy, then go for it, and remember, divorce isn't the end.

There will be many bright days ahead. Remember, the sun always shines after the rain.